화상영어 대화주제 "about controlling person"

*화상영어-7_2025.07.01.화_with Mariz

 

 

Do you understand what's the meaning of controllers?

Persons who would like to control, how could you define them?

he likes or which he wants you to do. Oh, yes.

which he likes and he doesn't respect your feelings or opinions.

that he seems like controlling you, in what way?

Gaslighting? Making me feel like what I know is wrong.

But his opinion is always the right thing. Okay.

How to be controlling, that is a wrong behavior and it will not make you successful if you are controlling, because in a workplace, you need to develop harmony, you have to develop good rapport with your co-workers, even if you are the boss. If not, the environment in the workplace will not be good and it will not be successful.

You will not be affected or do this controlling behavior of people.

so you won't be affected especially if the thing he wants to do is harmful to you okay

They you that they can change I mean you cannot change a controlling person so you have to realize you can never change them okay yeah so that is one realization and then the only person that you can change is yourself of course only yourself so try to change someone else only is going to end in frustration so if your goal is to change his behavior of being controlling it will never happen you will

Okay, so did you realize that you can never change your boss? Change the behavior? Never. Don't change.

Please, I mean you understand that you can never please a controlling person for a long time. So, see, even if you give the controller what he wants you to make, to make him happy, that is not a guarantee that you will have a long-lasting relationship.

He wants because you don't want conflict, what will happen that it says here that it will not have a long lasting relationship. You will never be happy with his being controlling you and same as him. You will never be happy when you follow him, you give into what he wants because after that he wants more.

What? Speak up! Best way to do it is speak up. Because you don't want to be controlled. You have to stand firm on what you stand for.

People close their... cover their ears, so not to... just not to listen to you. Did you see that?

just not to uh uh or it seems like uh ignoring it is ignoring him did you feel that way yeah did you do that too

Let me know in the reaction.They make choices that are about themselves. It means that you are the one being controlled, therefore you make your choices that are about yourself. What does that mean? Think about the decision you make, big or small, that will preserve your dignity. So if he is controlling you and you see that what he wants is harmful, you should think that your decision will not harm your dignity or your self-respect.

4. They recognize their rights, such as the right to be treated fairly, and have your personal choices respected.

So, you should express your strength. So that he will stop controlling you. You have to show him your strength. These are tips for you to overcome people who are controlling.

Create space from the controller. What does that mean? So if you know how to be immune to this controller, you create space. It means that if possible that you can establish physical or emotional distance from the pushy person. We call it pushy because he tends to push you around. He wants to dictate. So if you have the chance to get away, or sometimes space is the best solution.

you'd have to earn your self-respect. So, there are other things that you can do except for creating space. It's impossible because the boss will keep on encountering you face-to-face.

controls you in a particular area, think through your own standards and ways of doing things. Don't let another person determine the guidelines for yourself. You do it. Okay, so it says here, yes, he is controlling you. Yes, he wants you to do things that is against your will, but then again, you should think it over and you should also know your standards, okay, the ways of doing things. Even if he tells you to do this thing this way, if you know that you will succeed in doing it your way, then follow your way.

Speak up. Don't just be quiet, okay? Because sometimes you also have to express your thoughts, you know? You also have to voice out if you have to. And if you voice out, you know, you can justify everything that you stand for.

If you can't do it, we will go to that one tip here, and that is third person. And that's good. You see, that is good. If you can't do it yourself, there will be a third person. You will involve a third person.

If sometimes he wants to control over you, these are some of the tips to be successful and not be controlled. But then again, we always weigh things out. We don't just do it without thinking. You first think about your actions and then see to it that your action will not aggravate the situation. It will help you solve the situation.

in certain situations in life. Even if you're family members, your husband, your children. When children grow up, there are a lot of conflicts with parents. Sometimes when they are small, parents can control. But when they grow bigger and being an adult, we cannot control them anymore because they have their own thinking. They think that they know better. So parents should know how to react in different situations without losing their respect.

Okay, this goes to it. When you speak up for your opinion, you go directly to the point, okay? Don't go directly to what your point is. Avoid making dramas or sometimes accusations. Just state what is bothering you and why.

Council. Okay, this is what you're saying. Yeah. So basic wise counsel, you involve a friend, a family member, a therapist, or even your husband to help you understand the situation and navigate through it. Often, an objective third party, so the third party should be objective. Though not biased, it means that no clinging to anyone. She should be objective so she could weigh or he could weigh what is wrong and what is right. If they are not biased, they are objective.

You have your husband who is always there for you, just at your back whenever there are challenges, he helps you solve and find out for the solutions, and that is a good partnership.

You'll never earn respect. So if you just allow yourself to be controlled, you will not earn his respect because he will find you weak. Just as what you're saying, GOP always says that your work is not good. And he is the one who knows best. So he is looking down on you. So don't let it go that way.

to prove that you can do things by yourself. Okay, so I'll stop from there. We have 15 tips. I will not finish by this. We're going to finish maybe next time. Friday. Friday. Okay, did you learn something today? Did you learn something? No, I'm nothing. I came back home and have dinner with my family and worship my son. Okay, but did you like what we are teaching?

communication skills, use the English language correctly, and vocabularies are starting to expand, and grammar too. So this is the way. And maybe sometime I could also give you some PPT about some lessons on grammar or lessons in comprehension. So we'll do lots and lots of things in the future. Yes. Okay, thank you so much Clara. Thank you so much. I love talking to you.